Mother’s mend son’s broken hearts!

Son’s need a Mother to help mend their broken heart~ 

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I know as a mother we hold one of the most important jobs in this world and the amazing truth is that we have an indefinite number of job duties that umbrella underneath this very prestigious role.  Each child we hold, have, and love is so unique and different from the other; so the job duties may hold similarities but are never duplicated.

The thing is we need to be honest with our children always, even when it’s hard, even when we don’t want to, even when we can’t be honest with our own self!  How do we expect our kids to know that we won’t lie to them, do we expect them to just take a person’s word because it was said?   Do we want our kids to be that easily swayed, definitely not; especially with those “friends” who aren’t really friends not to far in the distant in their near-future.

Our kids will eventually know they can believe us; and they will… eventually if we show them.  It isn’t enough to just tell our kids, “everything is gonna be alright,” and  like magic, they take our word for it.  It is paramount that we believe our words, mean what we say, and even when we don’t we be honest about it; and do everything in our power to keep our word true.

The past few years have met me and my family with several devastating  distractions, things happen that were never supposed to! Those “things” we said we were going to do, that never happened 😦 should be addressed and communicated.  While you share a side they couldn’t imagine, you can both find peace in the realization that it really is NEVER too late.  When I was in high-school I didn’t walk the stage for 2 points, 68% in Government, and my teacher wouldn’t give me those 2 points as I begged, so next step~ I hurried take the state test in Austin… which,  I PASSED; but grade came in a few HOURS too late, and was not able to walk the stage with my graduating class.  It was a hard blow, but eventually made a peace with myself, telling myself I would be “ok” I would walk the stage one day, in College.  When I did walk the stage, while receiving my Bachelors degree, all I could think of was how vindicated I felt, and cried tears of completeness for a wound that was 14 years earlier. ~married, family and still working to make my wrongs, RIGHT!

Things don’t go as planned, and we feel disappointment, we even end up hurting people who mean the world to us, in ways they couldn’t quite understand; and a lot of times it is the people we would NEVER want to hurt, our kids.

We all get hurt, sometimes the hurt makes its appearance quick all of a sudden, and we find ourself in a feeling of complete shock and leaves us in a continued strong state to hide or deny what hurts, we want to blame instead of find peace.  Sometimes we will spend our life blaming a person, or other people for everything that went wrong; and sometimes we spend the rest of our life taking the blame.

I will tell you the smartest thing to do when something goes wrong, is accept the situation as soon as possible.  The more you fight the situation the more you deny what has happened or you will continue to just put a strain on all the rest of your relationships or own peace.

I think it is very important as a mother that I teach my son through my example; I accept and admit what happened even if it doesn’t quite make sense.  We as humans have a strong need to understand~ sometimes those things that we can’t understand are not meant to be understood immediately and one day it just makes sense after another series of events takes place.

When our kids see us resilient, they know they are too!  I dread the day my son experiences his first broken heart in dealing with love and another.  It is hard for others to see all the magic a person possesses; especially when we are young and still figuring things out.  So many people are focused on their self or looking at other green pastures they have foggy lenses as they figure out who they are today; we all feel so different from yesterday.  As a mother I hope that my son, realizes his potential especially when others don’t see it.  Sometimes people leave us,  and the message is~ that we are lacking something or that we are not enough; I think it is a perfect time to be honest with our self learn and grown.  Some people come into our lives as lessons and others are our blessings.  

As a mother I hope to remind my son of the truth when he forgets.  So many believe young love is dumb; doesn’t hurt, or just don’t understand it.  One thing we can agree on, is that WE all know what disappointment is… and we all know that healing is sometimes quick and sometimes it isn’t quick and we find ourself healing in some stage for the rest of our lives.  I think it is extremely important that we all actually taking time out of our busy lives more often to notice those wonderful moments when “it doesn’t quite hurt so bad anymore”.  It is ok to let go of the pain, and maybe it will come back and maybe it won’t; but that feeling when we can feel peace inside for a moment; we need to talk about those moments with our sons!

Never indulge in the feelings of regret, because the grey line to RESENTMENT is very faint.  We don’t need to stay where we are ever… we need to raise our soul to a higher plane an even though our soul has reached a plane it has not quite been before we can embrace our newer understanding of one’s true new capabilities with what we have learned.  WE need to constantly remind ourself and our son of the person they are, and the self they want to be.

Convey the message, live it with conviction~~ God is in control, no, we are not his robots… he doesn’t run and control us, you don’t control people you love… you give them free will to choose; and sometimes that truth is allowing them to learn and be who they were meant to be even if it means losing them because unconditional love is great it isn’t self-serving; there is a definite plan.  WE must always stay humble in mind; because part of anyone’s plan is not ever to place yourself above your neighbor… and if you do, that is when you know you are not on God’s plan, you are on a plan that is a lie.  WE can rejoice in our blessings, and when we lose something, we can know and believe if we are following God’s plan, there is something better and greater coming our way, even when we don’t understand.  If something is taken away, maybe it was never ours to keep forever, it was ours for a just a time; and we need to let go because it’s what part of the plan is.

WE need to teach our son’s that there is only ONE true way, through him~ Our Lord.  We need to teach our son to work toward all he wants, but understand that he already has everything he needs. We need to remind our son’s that no matter how ugly, unfair, and mean the world can be, we must not give in and lose the truth; even if we are of the few yet holding on, NEVER lose the faith.

Sunday’s Sonshine 🙂 “Son’s”   ~read more like this~

“Fix My Eyes”

Hit rewind, click delete
Stand face to face with the younger me
All of the mistakes
All of the heartbreak
Here’s what I’d do differently, I’dLove like I’m not scared
Give when it’s not fair
Live life for another
Take time for a brother
Fight for the weak ones
Speak out for freedom
Find faith in the battle
Stand tall but above it all
Fix my eyes on You
On YouI learned the lines and talked the talk
(Everybody knows it, everybody knows it)
But the road less traveled is hard to walk
(Everybody knows it, everybody knows)
It takes a soldier
Who knows his orders
To walk the walk I’m supposed to walk, and

Love like I’m not scared
Give when it’s not fair
Live life for another
Take time for a brother
Fight for the weak ones
Speak out for freedom
Find faith in the battle
Stand tall but above it all
Fix my eyes on You
On You

The things of earth are dimming
In the light of Your glory and grace
I’ll set my sights upon Heaven
I’m fixing my eyes on You, on You
I’m fixing my eyes on You, on You
I’m fixing my eyes

Love like I’m not scared
Give when it’s not fair
Live life for another
Take time for a brother
Fight for the weak ones
Speak out for freedom
Find faith in the battle
Stand tall but above it all
Fix my eyes on You
On You

I’ll fix my eyes on you
(On you)
I’ll fix my eyes on you
(On you)

1234 Trying to get it right for him! 

2 comments

  1. 73gmontiel says:

    Funny that you mention a broken heart. When I was a young man I had to go through the experience of that broken heart. I’m embarrassed to say this but oh well I was just a kid and it is what it is. My mom saw that I was hurting and boy was she pissed I had to literally talk her out of telling that person something because my mom wanted to give her a piece of her mind. I had to bounce back quick God forbid I showed signs of weakness or my mom would have surely gone on a rampage.

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