It gets to a point when all the emotions about particular things have settled, that you can clearly see the reality of how things will be with a true conscious. We can’t change people or make people want to try all we can do is accept things as they are. When we stop trying to make things happen, we realize we feel less rigid and at the same time, we feel less paralyzed.
Life seems to be easier when we numb our selves and ignore what we don’t want to face, but the Lord seems to place more of that in our face because we were not made to stay in the same ways. Life is not always calm and relaxed like we would want, life takes on a rhythm of its own.
Sometimes we do need to take a break, stand back from the whole situation to see what the situation really entails, and not just what our emotions are telling us the situation is about. It is so easy to compare the current to the past due to our mentality. I know, there are certain people in the past who have meant the world to me, but I had to let them go because they didn’t allow me to grow. They didn’t want me to think any differently than what they wanted me to believe how things were supposed to be. People who didn’t allow me to have beliefs of my own, or never appreciated the individuality of me or others.
The truth is, we are not going to like everybody in this world, there are certain people who were married into my family that it took me years to tolerate. Why do we put up these barriers between our tribe? Some of us come from different states, different backgrounds, and we decide we aren’t going to give them the time of day, or just press into our self how completely annoying they are to us. Sometimes marriage brings a whole tribe of them and that can be overwhelming, and all of a sudden they are your sisters, brothers, or cousins.
What makes others feel they are so entitled to sit there and act like they are sacrificing so much because they are basically just sitting there and tolerating another human being who is brought into the pack by another member. How about finding a deeper level of contemplation. It isn’t easy, believe me, there are still some people I have to psyche myself up when I know they will be there, but I will try, I will always try for those I love.
NO, I wasn’t always so accepting, and some days; It still is a struggle, but it took a lot of years with God showing me I had to be. I had to try and focus on the good of a person if I was really going to make a difference at all; and you know what my tribe deserves peace. The world is full of so much bullying and hate, why do we keep it around our family and friends when we don’t have to? Everyone is put in our lives to teach us something, we need to trust God’s plan and NOT act like we know more than he does.
When we realize what it is about others that bother us, we will truly see how much it reminds us of someone we truly love like a parent or even our own self. Sometimes, we learn it is better to just leave people alone and that is one thing I have a hard time doing because I personally have issues with being left out by my own family. It isn’t easy to let go or deal with others who stir our feelings of jealousy, envy, and overbearing people who are one of my nemesis.
Some people really don’t want that interaction, and that is where I am learning and will give them their space. I know sometimes, I want my own space too; so that I can understand.
We have pieces of situations, bits of our own past always come to play, and bits of unrecognizable new information that we need to try and understand to form a new puzzle; solving a puzzle is never easy but it is truly worth it for all involved when things at least start to make sense.